of my understanding
My journey in Al‑Anon began two years ago. I attended two meetings a week, got a Sponsor, and started working the Steps. I don’t think I knew just how sick I was until I had attended Al‑Anon meetings for a few months. All the mechanisms I relied on to make me feel . . .
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What Acceptance Meant
I’ve never been an “accepter.” If something needed action (in my mind), I took action to fix it or to advise someone else how to fix it. If someone was hurting, I told them what to do to feel better. If someone was misbehaving, I let them know that what they were . . .
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With Step One
For over five years, I had thought Step One was easy: “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.” I certainly felt powerless, and I wasn’t managing my life very well. Then one day, in yet another attempt to help my alcoholic daughter, I had an epiphany.
On . . .
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making the decision to get off the ‘crazy train’
When I first came to Al‑Anon to help me deal with my boyfriend’s drinking and drug problem, the first “gems” that I heard were to consider not monitoring his drinking, not asking about his drinking, to let his drinking be his business, and to focus on . . .
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a parent’s worst nightmare
Three a.m.: My eyes squeezed shut. I crave sleep, but worry, fear, and obsessive projections about what might befall my alcoholic loved ones worm their way through my thoughts. Gnawing. Gouging. Over and over, pulverizing any chance of sleep. Hospital scenes play out. DWI arrests? Accidents? Jail? Bail? Maybe worse. Death. . . .
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No Magic Needed
When I came to Al‑Anon, it was like arriving at the Wizard of Oz world. Can this place finally grant me my wishes? That is what I prayed and hoped for; I needed all my wishes granted. The biggest one was that I be happy again. There was new sobriety in our . . .
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I was powerless over my son’s life—and death Admitting I was powerless over my son’s drinking brought a sense of calm I had not previously known. So much of my time and energy had been devoted to “saving” my son. I diligently pulled family, friends, church members, and anyone who would listen into my personal . . .
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Grateful for small things, thankful for all things A few years ago, for 40 days, my Sponsor and I e-mailed each other every day ten things we were grateful for. My Sponsor suggested that we had to come up with ten different things each day, no repeats! Some days it was work, but I will never forget . . .
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I found a healthy way to relate to my dad I’d be glad to share what’s helped me deal with Dad’s drinking since the intervention five and a half years ago—let him live the way he wants, without my interference (as painful as that is to say). The paradox I’ve learned . . .
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trying it Mum’s way
Mum and I did not get along. We communicated by ridiculing each other. Since she was intolerant and impatient with me, I was intolerant and impatient with her. Even so, when I moved thousands of miles away, we were always in touch, and I could count on her for a Valentine’s . . .
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of her husband’s drinking I came to Al‑Anon because I was sick and tired of being the only one awake at 7 p.m. The bottle washed away all our plans for travel after the kids were grown. My husband just wanted to work, drink, and sleep. I wanted more out of life.I came to Al‑Anon . . .
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to acceptance, then love
I came to Al‑Anon because I was sick and tired of being the only one awake at 7 p.m. The bottle washed away all our plans for travel after the kids were grown. My husband just wanted to work, drink, and sleep. I wanted more out of life.
I came to . . .
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As one of the 16% male Al‑Anon members, I am inspired and moved by the initiative taken by the World Service Office to address diversity. Having recently attended our Area Assembly, where there was also a workshop on diversity, I am deeply committed to sharing the message that Al‑Anon is for everyone.
At the . . .
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for my son’s drinking
I started going to Al‑Anon in August of 2012. By then, my son had been drinking for nine years. At my second meeting, I heard, “I didn’t cause it, I can’t control it, and I can’t cure it,” and it changed my life. “How profound,” I thought, “I’m not responsible for . . .
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