I think many people aren’t sure they belong when they first come to Al‑Anon. I know I didn’t think I belonged, because I was no longer living with an alcoholic, and hadn’t been for years. I grew up in the family disease of alcoholism, and later married, then divorced an alcoholic. I am incredibly grateful . . .
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I didn’t know, Mom, that you were struggling with alcohol and prescription drugs.
I didn’t know that Dad was yelling at me because he was trying to control the uncontrollable—your addictions.
I didn’t know why there was no talk at home about anything, or why there were rules that kept changing.
I didn’t know that . . .
→ Read More: A letter to my Mom
For eight years, I had been living a life of emotional hoarding because of alcoholism. I lived in seclusion, consumed by depression, constant worry, and panic. Unlike a hoarder who collects things, I had been collecting “hurts.”
My son’s disease was kept a secret because admitting it to others was much too painful. I was . . .
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of my understanding
My journey in Al‑Anon began two years ago. I attended two meetings a week, got a Sponsor, and started working the Steps. I don’t think I knew just how sick I was until I had attended Al‑Anon meetings for a few months. All the mechanisms I relied on to make me feel . . .
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What Acceptance Meant
I’ve never been an “accepter.” If something needed action (in my mind), I took action to fix it or to advise someone else how to fix it. If someone was hurting, I told them what to do to feel better. If someone was misbehaving, I let them know that what they were . . .
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With Step One
For over five years, I had thought Step One was easy: “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.” I certainly felt powerless, and I wasn’t managing my life very well. Then one day, in yet another attempt to help my alcoholic daughter, I had an epiphany.
On . . .
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2014 “SANDS of SERENITY” ALATEEN CONFERENCE JUNE 27-29, 2014
DAYTONA BEACH, FL.
TEENS, LIGHT UP YOUR SERENITY FRIDAY EVENING ON THE BEACH !
MANY WORKSHOPS AND FUN FOR TEENS. PRE-TEEN ACTIVITIES WHICH INCLUDE FUN & GAMES.
AL-ANON MEETINGS FOR AMIAS. RELAXATION ON . . .
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“States Without Borders” When: July3-6, 2014
Where: Newark Liberty International Airport, 1 Hotel Road, Newark, New Jersey 07114 Map
Who: Al-Anon/Alateen in Spanish America and Hispanic-speaking countries with the participation of: Al-Anon Adult Children, Al-Anon English, AA in Spanish
Host: Hispanic Intergroups of New Jersey and New York
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making the decision to get off the ‘crazy train’
When I first came to Al‑Anon to help me deal with my boyfriend’s drinking and drug problem, the first “gems” that I heard were to consider not monitoring his drinking, not asking about his drinking, to let his drinking be his business, and to focus on . . .
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a parent’s worst nightmare
Three a.m.: My eyes squeezed shut. I crave sleep, but worry, fear, and obsessive projections about what might befall my alcoholic loved ones worm their way through my thoughts. Gnawing. Gouging. Over and over, pulverizing any chance of sleep. Hospital scenes play out. DWI arrests? Accidents? Jail? Bail? Maybe worse. Death. . . .
→ Read More: Al-Anon got me through
No Magic Needed
When I came to Al‑Anon, it was like arriving at the Wizard of Oz world. Can this place finally grant me my wishes? That is what I prayed and hoped for; I needed all my wishes granted. The biggest one was that I be happy again. There was new sobriety in our . . .
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I was powerless over my son’s life—and death Admitting I was powerless over my son’s drinking brought a sense of calm I had not previously known. So much of my time and energy had been devoted to “saving” my son. I diligently pulled family, friends, church members, and anyone who would listen into my personal . . .
→ Read More: Powerless Over Son’s Life/Death